Tonight a couple of my friends is getting married. I have had the privilege of seeing their relationship blossom from a good friendship to courtship to engagement and tonight, they will become husband and wife. While this is a wonderful piece of news, I would like to focus on half of a marriage. Proverbs 31 is a mother’s warning and a list of what a wife should be doing. In verse 10, it starts describing what a wife should be.
10 An excellent wife, who can find? For her worth is far above jewels. 11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. 13 She looks for wool and flax And works with her hands in delight. 14 She is like merchant ships; She brings her food from afar. 15 She rises also while it is still night And gives food to her household And portions to her maidens. 16 She considers a field and buys it; From her earnings she plants a vineyard. 17 She girds herself with strength And makes her arms strong. 18 She senses that her gain is good; Her lamp does not go out at night. 19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff, And her hands grasp the spindle. 20 She extends her hand to the poor, And she stretches out her hands to the needy. 21 She is not afraid of the snow for her household, For all her household are clothed with scarlet. 22 She makes coverings for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple. 23 Her husband is known in the gates, When he sits among the elders of the land. 24 She makes linen garments and sells them, And supplies belts to the tradesmen. 25 Strength and dignity are her clothing, And she smiles at the future. 26 She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 27 She looks well to the ways of her household, And does not eat the bread of idleness. 28 Her children rise up and bless her; Her husband also, and he praises her, saying: 29 “Many daughters have done nobly, But you excel them all.” 30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised. 31 Give her the product of her hands, And let her works praise her in the gates.
These are very good qualities to have in oneself, whether single or married. When single, you submit to your folks, and keeping busy with helping around the house, working diligently at work, staying confident in everything, especially one’s faith. One should also learn and strive to become wise, as well as always trying to be kind.
Now, I know that these things are hard to do, and for most, the most difficult things are different for everybody. Some gals might have no problem being kind to those around them, while some may struggle to do so. A few of you might have more hardship being being busy at work than learning wisdom. But no worries. God is forgiving. Maybe focus on one thing at a time, and remember, God is really good at giving us situations where we need to practice what we’ve been learning about.