6/8/14

So a couple weeks ago, a couple of my closest friends each asked me, on two different days, if I was interested in, or “liked” one of the young men in our church. No reason, one was just curious, and the other had noticed that I was friendly with him, and was curious as well. Both of them thought he and I would be cute together, and wished that we “could happen”.
That’s kind of a hard question to answer. I mean, as a young man, who has the potential to be the future husband to some girl in this church, yes, I’m interested in the husband he could turn out to be. As a young man in the church who is involved with the youth here, then yes, I like him; as a friend would.
I enjoy hearing who my brothers thinks will be my husband, and its interesting to hear who my friends think I’ll end up with, but above it all, I won’t let myself, with God’s help, attach myself (mind-wise) to any particular guy, for these reasons:
1. It would set myself up for heartbreak, if the guy decided to court another gal. (This has happened to me before)
2. It would be hard to not act a certain way towards him, and that in itself might deter him.
3. If I attach myself to him, then I might overlook a guy who IS interested in me.
Sometimes, when someone tells me that they think so and so and I should be a couple, or when someone makes sure to let us gals know that Guy So&So is single, it’s hard for me not to say, “Well then, why don’t you talk to him about me?” It’s not good for the woman to make the first move.
All of this rambling to say: Girls, it is NOT up to you to make the first move, and it is not good to mentally attach yourself to any guy, at least not until an official relationship has formed. Now I’m not saying that there aren’t any good relationships where the woman made the first move, but that should be the exception. And for the very reasons that I have just listed, it isn’t a good idea to pair you and a guy together in your head. It’s just not healthy. Do you agree? Anything you would add? Comment below! 🙂

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